Wedding Bells

They're a ringing.....

Sorry that its been so long, but not a lot of anything has occurred until the past 2 weeks and I've been kinda processing it all..

NO.. not my wedding bells.. Ex is getting married.
Yup, she is taking the plunge again.

For those that know the back story, you are probably thinking that I would blow up, or that she is nuts, or have a shitload of opinions...

Guess how I reacted?????

I said "Congratulations" .... and even more... I meant it.

I really am happy for her... oh, yes, its the same guy that she left me for.. but I really am. She found a guy that she likes enough to commit to like that again.. he's good with my kids (they love him to death) and he's a nice guy.

Yeah, seriously.. he's a nice guy. I met him last week. I like him.
I would love to hang out with him. If things were different, I'd give him a shot at being a friend of mine. But unfortunately, he's not really up for that.
I met him on a freakishly hot day when I dropped the kids back with her and there were some large items that needed to be moved from her old place. I had the ability to take them to her moms which is on my way home, so I did. And he helped me load it all up.

It was a little funny to me because when its hot like that, I take off my shirt.. Now I'm not a bodybuilder by any means, but for a 36 yr old man who hasn't exercised regularly in YEARS, I've kept it pretty well... I was throwing things around that he had trouble just handling. We got along.. he and I talked for about an hour and half in the process of getting this crap loaded up and secured. He really is a cool guy..not very strong, but a good guy non the less.

I know it sounds superficial and that i was trying to intimidate, but it really wasn't like that at all. he was scared but he was the one that approached me (remember, I was dropping off the kids and gathering all their shit and letting Ex know what was where, etc).. We shook hands and I said "glad to meet you".. he said the same thing, but included "finally".... I let it go... I'm the one who had been asking for a year.

We did it, and got it all loaded into my truck and trailer just as the drops of a storm started to fall. Ex and the kids were in their car and I had volunteered to take it to he mom's house.. I mean, shit... its the least I could do.. so I guess you could call that their wedding gift (I'm still broke as fuck but it saved them a few hundred bucks)..

So the kids and Ex are in the car and its just me and him as we walk towards it so I can give the hugs and kisses to the kids.... While still a good distance away, I said "Hey!!" and tapped him on the arm. As he turned, I stuck out my hand and said "hey dude, congratulations..seriously"

He said "thanks.. it really was good to meet you finally" and I agreed..

A couple more steps happened and then I did it... I grabbed his right shoulder with my left hand (because he was in front of me and a bit to my left) and turned him around.. looked him square in the eye..." Dude... I don't give a shit anymore...really... I don't" as I shook his hand again..

We left it at that. I said goodbye to the kids.

In hindsight I should have worded that differently, but I think he got the point... the point that I really am past it all. I even told Ex in a text after they pulled away that I really liked the guy.. I do. I even feel bad for him because I know what he is getting into...
Oh yeah, I forgot to mention.. they're planning on having kids.. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA