The Phone Call

I looked at the caller ID on my cell and didn't recognize the number . I knew who it was, I just knew it. Why? Because I could feel it.
He wasn't as "nasty" as you would expect. Firm in his tone but a little respectful.

" Hello"

"Is this OG?"

"Yes"

"This is DH, Delores' husband."

" How are you doing?"

" Listen, I know you were there the other night, I want you to back off some, respect my family and let Delores and me sort our shit out, just be patient"

"Hey, sure. I will be happy to talk to you about this, unfortunately, I'm at work with a customer right now. Seriously. I will talk to you, but this is really not a good time"

"When should I call back?"

" gimme two hours, max."

This was at 2:30.

That is not a transcript, but pretty much how it went.

What I didn't know was that she had told him already. I give the man some Kudos, because if I had the guy giving it to my wife on the phone within an hour of finding out, I would have behaved much, much differently. What I also didn't know, until Saturday, was that he had gone into Delores' FB and was looking at my page when she came home. That's how he got my number. He also would have looked at my all my pictures.
And I know exactly which one his eyes would have locked on first. An old one. 17 years old to be exact. The prom picture of Delores and me.
I'm sure that's when he saw red and called her with "We're getting divorced and I'm taking the kid".

Now, I have seen him in person, but he has never seen me. He's a big dude. But you can pretty well gauge a persons size if you place them next to a known constant. So he would have known I'm not the biggest guy in the world because here I was, next to someone that he has stood next to.
He's a pretty large, physically intimidating guy. So why was he relatively calm about it? Was it the other pictures on there that I know he saw?

I have some pictures of a tour I did in the Mid East showing some of what I used to do. Blowing crap up. It was obvious that I had been trained pretty well in the Marine Corps and may not be so subject to physical intimidation.

Was it my kids? I'm a father who loves his children and am constantly updating photos and videos of them. So did he think that maybe I'm not TOOO bad of a guy?

Was it the realization that she was unhappy and that there was really nothing he could do about it so maybe splitting up was the best choice?

I'm sure we will never know.

The other thing that has been bugging me, and I have asked Delores this a few times; How the fuck did he peg me? At the time I started actively participating on Facebook, Delores and I had been "friends" for some time, so there was no New Friend notification. I just had started using it after about 5 months with an open account. She had somewhere between 300 and 400 friends. Somehow, he pegged me. I'm not going to ask him that one either.

He still hasn't called back. Delores told me later that day that he probably won't. If he does. I'll answer. Why? The same reason I answered in the first place. I'm not going to hide